Diva Academy

I have just finished watching Channel 4's documentary on SURROGACY. My goodness it is such a strange situation that women actually put themselves into. Now that I am a mother, I wonder whether I could give up a child I carried for 9 months to a couple I barely know. The bond that you forge with your unborn baby is real, its strong and a miracle...is it worth £10,000 to £20,000 in expenses?


Many women on the programme said it gave them a fulfilled feeling, they felt as though they had accomplished something and it was that 'buzz' that kept them doing it over and over again. 7, 8, 12 babies carried, born and given away in the name of surrogacy...Would you do it?

I do believe that some women do it purely to help another woman going through the trauma, that is infertility but some I think have mad issues. One of the ladies said that they always knew that they did not want any children at all but yet has been a surrogate mother for 18 years and has given away 8 babies, each of the children are half hers as she only uses her own eggs. Some would say she is contradicting herself...If you want my opinion I believe she wants to be a mother but is afraid of taking it on in all its glory. If you feel the only way to be fulfilled is to have babies for someone else, there must be an enormous void in your life.

I think of the children born to IVF, SURROGACY and SPERM DONATION and I wonder what it will be like for them knowing that their 'biological' parent is out there somewhere and they are totally anonymous, in recent years a register has been put together for children looking for their parents who donated eggs/sperm for their conception but registering is optional I think.


I know what it feels like to want a child I was told more than once by consultants that I would not conceive naturally. That hurt that tears into your heart is not a feeling I would wish on any woman. My head spun as those words were told to me. I couldn't bare to hear that anyone was pregnant, I was obsessed with documentaries on birth and babies and I was probably a nightmare to be married to at times because my emotional state was so fragile. Obviously things have changed dramatically in my life my starting position is not my finishing position. I have a new name and that is MUMMY. Its better than Veyan and even better than DIVA!

I do not judge those that embark on this life choice, however I can certainly say that it is not for me. Those that do choose it should really be honest with what they are actually doing it and not use it as a void filler that lasts only 9 months.

Vee xxx